Tips for Dating When You're a Highly Sensitive Person

The dating world isn't easy. Not a lot of people in today's world meet someone face to face anymore. A lot of people gravitate toward applications and social media.

Instead of meeting someone in person, you're now obligated to view photos and biographies, swipe left and right until you find a match, and then try to carry a conversation over chat or messenger before even meeting in public for the first time.

The dating scene can become even more complicated if you're a highly sensitive person. That being said, you're not going to be single forever. Finding the right person takes time.

Give yourself a little grace and read through some of our tips for dating when you're a highly sensitive person.

Choose a Calm Environment

As a highly sensitive person, you're more likely to be sensitive to the environment you're in. You may pick up on certain things that an average person may not even notice. When you're meeting someone in person for a date, try to control the environment that you're going to be in.

You can suggest a restaurant or a place that you're already familiar with. If your date suggested a place already, try to scope out the location ahead of time. You can even arrive a little earlier to figure out where you're going to be the most comfortable.

Stick to Your Boundaries

Boundaries can be something that's difficult for most people to make in the relationships in their lives. It can be even harder for a highly sensitive person to set and stick with their own boundaries they may set for themselves.

When they're dealing with others, they tend to prioritize others' wants and needs over their own. That means when they start dating, they may push their own wants and needs aside in order to prioritize the other person's. Make sure you're sticking to all the boundaries you have set for yourself. This means not feeling pressured into talking about certain things that may be off-limits to you, texting or talking on the phone during certain times of the day, or trying new things on a date that you're not very interested in. You're more likely to have a successful date if you stick to your true self, which includes your own wants, needs, values, and beliefs.

Don't Settle

Highly sensitive people have a tendency to settle with someone or jump into things that may not be best suited for them. There are a ton of great people out there. Every person you meet may not be your person, and that's completely okay. You can go on dates and have a really good time, but you may not want to go on another date. That's okay, too.

You don't have to keep going on dates with someone just because you feel bad that you don't like them in the way you thought you would or that they like you. Trust yourself and your judgment. You know yourself better than anyone. The right person will come along, eventually.

Next Steps

There's nothing wrong with being a highly sensitive person. You just have to be mindful, especially when it comes to building relationships. There are a lot of things that could go wrong or right for someone, but highly sensitive people have more factors to consider compared to the average person.

If you're struggling with the dating scene as a highly sensitive person, you're not alone. You may just need a little extra help so you can sort through all of your thoughts, emotions, and feelings. Reach out today if you're interested in setting up a consultation for relationship counseling.